The biggest hurdle on your way to happiness is self-loathing. Self-loathing is very similar to insecurity. And if you experience it, know that you’re not alone. Almost everyone experiences some form of self-hate at one time or another. It’s the feeling you are not enough, unworthy or undeserving of the good things in life, like love and happiness. The truth is that, everyone deserves love and happiness. But we’re often taught the opposite. It may arise from a history of abuse, cultural or social messages or being excluded.
Bad relationships, failures and many other different experiences can lead you to believe that, there is something inherently wrong with you. Well, there isn’t and self-loathing will only bring you down even if you’ve made decisions that you’re not proud of. You can learn from your mistakes, hating yourself over them will not do you any good. Let go of your self-loathing. It’s a barrier to your happiness. And you do deserve to be happy.
Every lie is a story which isn’t woven to reality, basically such stories never mean logic or sense because of a liar’s previous track record. People who follow a truthful life are different, such people portray their life with confidence. & Confident people don’t lie to themselves. They also don’t tell themselves things like; I’m too old, I’m not smart enough or I’m not attractive enough. They don’t hide behind denial or limiting beliefs that simply offer an excuse to remain stuck in the status quo. They are real with themselves even when the truth seems daunting. Live for yourself.
Lying may be more common than you think. One study found that 40% of adults lie at least once in a day, usually in small ways. And even though some people lie more or less than others, a lie is a lie. So how do you navigate a world full of liars when you value honesty and integrity. Here are two major traits of genuinely honest people so you can decide whether you or someone in your life is truly a honest person:
1. They have a calm yet strong speaking voice. One of the easiest telltale signs of lying is an aggressive voice when you catch someone in a lie, they’ll often raise their voice in defense as a way to establish power. Honest people rarely become defensive when they’re asked questions, even if those questions seem accusatory in nature. When an honest person replies, their tone of voice is calm and consistent since there is no possible way they’ll be found out. They have nothing to worry about. There is no reason to lie or make up a story. There’s nothing to hide.
2. Honest people come across as rude sometimes. They are less concerned with catering to your feelings. They would rather tell you a truth that hurts then let you believe a lie that makes you feel good about yourself. They aren’t afraid to tell the truth, even if it means they’ll come across as rude or harsh. Because of this fact you might think an honest person is mean sometimes. If you’re not ready for the raw unadulterated truth, then don’t ask an honest person. They’re Not going to sugarcoat a situation or pretend that everything is OK. When it isn’t OK, they’ll present the facts and give their personal opinions even if it’s not what you want to hear. If you’ve ever received tough information from an honest person know that their intent is not malice, It’s HONESTY.
Never badmouth others. No matter it’s in a professional or social setting, it’s not appropriate to badmouth people. You certainly will not earn any respect by doing this. If you’re unhappy with someone and what they’re doing, talk to them and work things out. Don’t talk behind their back. That’s the kind of behavior that attracts gossip and negativity. Not only does it reflect badly on you as a person. It also hurts the other party whether you realize that or not.
So be honest and transparent when you’re communicating with others. Always act as if the person you’re talking about is right there with you.
There are liars, cheaters, thieves, criminals, Donald Trump & all sort of other deceptive people, all have one thing in common is their “LIE”. Basically all are different degree of LIARS. On the other hand there is also another set of equally lackluster group of folks known as “INCONSISTENT PEOPLE”. And i swear they are even more worse compared to LIARS. Liars are a turn off, but it takes a little time to catch their lies. But inconsistent people are way more prominent in their part of nonsense, you can catch their INCONSISTENCY very next moment. Another funny part, most LIARS are INCONSISTENT by nature.
My post was to make everyone aware of any INCONSISTENT person around. You don’t need to confront them, just get rid of them. Right people vibe & match your energy, then stick for a long run no matter what’s your taste or status!! Liars will never connect to this school of thought. Truth is trust. Be blunt to block any inconsistent person from life, that’s the best gift you can give yourself before 2020 is over. Still another month away, let’s end it on a good note.
(This paragraph has nothing to do with the post above. We are slowly but surely recovering from this pandemic. I wish/hope everyone is taking care of own health and happiness. Today i am not around family or my same set of friends that i have spent previous few amazing years, i am talking about geographical distance here. This is the time we used to share some warmth, have some nice sugery/greasy yummy food & create few good memories meanwhile. I didn’t host any kinda party this year because of COVID-19, that money was meant to be spent for my people. So many things didn’t go as planned. What breaks my heart is those people whose lives & livelihood got effected. Went to a nearby homeless shelter today asking whether i can donate some sweatshirts/jackets/blankets because it’s almost winter. They replied, there is enough winter clothes available except some winter woolen socks because they always run short. I bought socks for everyone in that homeless shelter & i wasn’t even able to spend the whole thanksgiving dinner money. Only message i wanted to share here; YES we all are going through a tough time. Do your tiny bit towards the needy even if you want to flex/share it in your instagram or YouTube. There is nothing wrong is spreading the right. HAPPY THANKSGIVING.)
Two things in life are really really important, “MEAN WHAT YOU SAY & SAY WHAT YOU MEAN”. Apart from these two, yes there is a fun humour element to life which completely depends on your personality. If you connect to what i am talking about, of course you know most people fuck it at the end somehow.
We all try to hide truth, feelings, certain incidents & tales of own faux pas. Back to those first two important things in life, very few understand it & follow it. Speaking your TRUTH is the most beautiful thing you can do with yourself. Or else there are already enough lame ducks around, never throw words at someone without packing some meaning to it.
Your dreams are yours & you have to get it alone. Don’t expect people to be supportive, not even from your family. All you can do is talk about it & make sure there are few real truthful people in life who can say “YOU ARE WRONG” to your face. They are the ones who will drive your growth.
Our brain works mysterious and weird ways. While few ideas need a push, some need a burial as well. Learn how to move on from unnecessary ideas & fake people.