Grandpa once said “If you are confident about your views or values, never expect others to certify it”. I was still in my teen days when he said it. He died at the age of 97 before 3 years. I am somehow understanding his words how & why. I talk a lot about building confidence to develop a stronger self-esteem, which can later help in growing self-respect further. Let me explain all in few words;
1- Confident people don’t force their views on others. They don’t force their beliefs on anyone else whether those beliefs are political or religious. They have a clear understanding that these beliefs in choices are personal for everyone. They may stand up for themselves when others oppose, but will never challenge what other people think nor feel the need to tell them that they are wrong.
2- Never compromise your values. Having defined core values is foundational principles to any pursuit in life. Confident people live in alignment with their values and will never compromise themselves what they hold dear. They use these values as they make decisions in both life and work. Even if it means giving up something desirable in the short term. When it comes to confidence one thing is certain, truly confident people always have the upper hand over the doubtful and the skittish. Because they inspire others and they make things happen. Embracing the behaviors of confident people is a great way to increase your odds for success which in turn will lead to more confidence. (Not my words)
You must expect great things of yourself before you can do them.
– Michael Jordan.
It takes a lifetime to understand the difference between EXPENSIVE & OVERPRICED. Let me clarify it to you the easiest possible way.
For an example; your SELF-RESPECT is the most EXPENSIVE thing about you, once you understand your worth. And your EGO is either cheap or OVERPRICED looking at your attitude towards life.
Your truth, good habits, learnings, self-respect & self-esteem shape your character. And a weak character will always result in a weaker attitude towards life.
I have a bad habit to block random people from my life. The way I see it is; if I can be happy for a day without entertaining someone, I can be happy my whole life without that person. That’s another reason how I scare people away. This tiny paragraph is for flings & acquaintances.
Now let’s talk about the people who are in my life. I feel cherished & valued because my people understand how much I value self-respect. I don’t have anything like EGO in me. You can’t offend me. Being a human I too have flaws & I admit them time after time whenever I mess up something. Mama once said; “Do amazing new mistakes, that’s how you can understand where you can go wrong. But never repeat that same mistake again, that’s when you grow to be a bigger better you.” That’s the goal of life now. Goal is to become a bigger better TAP without entertaining unnecessary people or drama.
If you are active & feeling “How fast/busy life is!!”, I swear there is no better feeling than that. Learn to be happy with it. But if you are pretending being busy because you are just lazy, you too know you are nothing but just another boring person. Being optimistic is good, but that matters nothing without being real.
Problem in most people is, they are ok being OK towards everything wrong with own life. How can you value someone when he/she isn’t valuing him/herself!?!
Never try to do anything that’s outside of who you are. A forced smile is a sign of what feels wrong in your heart, so recognize it when it happens. Living a LIE will reduce you to one.
– Ashly Lorenzana.
There is a reason I always say liars are the insects of a healthy society. Every cheater, thief, murderer, rapist, narcissist, fraudster have one thing in common; “Their string of lies”. Whenever you encounter a liar, make sure you cut that equation clean out of your life. Those who are reading this, remember to gift yourself some ample dose of self-respect every morning. Live a life where there is no second chances, so that you will never entertain a liar or never commit that same mistake.
I live a life where there is no space for “SECOND CHANCES”, never got one, never wanted one & can’t give one.
Live a life with ample amount of self-respect. Negative people always keep returning with dirt in head & heart to walk over your sanity. Learn how to say straightforward “NO”. The one who can break something beautiful can never fix it. Even if they do, nobody can trust them. My attitude with life is something where i get over things/people pretty quick. It matters nothing if it’s not impacting my family or money. And yeah some friends are included in my family. Good vibes are scored around truthful people & the sexiest thing about them is their HONESTY.
Life is simple and fun, let it be.
I work as a data analytics professional & I also run a tiny health supplement business where i sell some athleisure clothing as well under my brand name in few e-commerce sites, because of my business I come in touch with different types of people from different regions/backgrounds. To be honest most people are not good with their ego & self-respect, people fail to understand the difference between both because of their insecurities. Sometimes it goes even more weird because there is MONEY involved. This is the story of other side where I feel other side is cringey or clingy just to get a bargain in a bulk order.
Story of my side is “The businessman part of me is nasty”, please don’t expect a gentle/sweet response if you are talking to me in between 11am-3pm. I just talk logic & numbers in that timeframe. A strong competitive mindset that I can’t leave aside which portrays my image as an angry stubborn rude TAP. The worst part is, I do this with a healthy happy funny mood. I still don’t know how/why my voice sounds so deep/grumpy during that specific time. Learning to be more calm & composed with time. I wish everyday not to hurt anyone with my words, but this happens once in a while. I still make things right before hitting bed. I can’t fall asleep with a thought of hurting someone.
Lesson for me today: There is no place for ARROGANCE & IGNORANCE in business. RESPECT THAT RESPECT YOU GET FROM OTHERS.
Blocked few people from my life while entering 2020.
Reason: You never shop cheap shit from a discounted/thrift store while having a million quid in your pocket.😜