The biggest hurdle on your way to happiness is self-loathing. Self-loathing is very similar to insecurity. And if you experience it, know that you’re not alone. Almost everyone experiences some form of self-hate at one time or another. It’s the feeling you are not enough, unworthy or undeserving of the good things in life, like love and happiness. The truth is that, everyone deserves love and happiness. But we’re often taught the opposite. It may arise from a history of abuse, cultural or social messages or being excluded.
Bad relationships, failures and many other different experiences can lead you to believe that, there is something inherently wrong with you. Well, there isn’t and self-loathing will only bring you down even if you’ve made decisions that you’re not proud of. You can learn from your mistakes, hating yourself over them will not do you any good. Let go of your self-loathing. It’s a barrier to your happiness. And you do deserve to be happy.
Gut feelings is something you should not ignore while making difficult decisions. People often tell you to just listen to your gut. We all have a sort of sixth sense and knowing what is right or wrong and whether or not the decision we are making is a good one. All of the information that you process subconsciously triggers a physical response that you shouldn’t ignore. These feelings are the most primal of impulses and evolutionary end. It’s hardwired into us and their main purpose is to protect us. It’s very important not to dismiss warning signs from your subconscious as it picks up much more about the environment around you than your conscious mind does and it can help you make better decisions. So here few examples on how to work on your feelings.
Being drawn to someone is common. There are positive gut instincts you should pay attention to. One of them is the urge to help another person. Even if there isn’t an obvious reason why someone would need your help. Your brain picks up on body language, tone and other indicators that can suggest the opposite. It doesn’t cost anything to ask someone if you can help them in some way. Besides it’s human instinct to help others and make a difference for someone if we can. Other times you may get the feeling that someone could just be the key to accomplishing some goal or dream. You have your gut tells you that this person will be important in your life whether it’s as a friend, romantic partner or business partner. Getting to know them could lead to an amazing opportunity. If you feel this pull towards someone, you should probably act on it & strike up a conversation and see where it leads.
Follow what you feel. (Said by my bestie bitch when i was going through a rough patch). Tap OUT..🤗
I receive ton of thirsty texts, calls, dms, snaps every single day. Not proud of it because i am not proud of the body count streak i was into for a long long time. When i say “now my bank account is my boo”, i really really mean my words. People chase you thinking they might get a chance to experience the same exciting life that you live, that’s all. I am not against it. Basically that’s how we humans usually approach relationships & materials. We always desire something that’s beyond our reach/budget.
In relationships that same thing causes toxicity, any kind of relationships i mean, friends, family or romantic equations as well. Choose people with whom you can vibe & stick together for a long long time without getting bored of all generic unenthusiastic human traits. Chasing someone is not worth it, it drains energy resulting nothing. Choose those who choose you.
With time moving up we see young people showing less intrest in relationships, basically most of us suck at COMMITMENT. Nobody answers you why!! But you will definitely spot a bunch of those who will say; “They are the perfect oak but weather is not helping. Claiming to be perfect is nothing but stupid”.
Answer: Expectations & optimism, It depends on what you expect from yourself & how optimistic you are about it!! There are many who aren’t stable with life, I am not talking about that problem. It’s just that, people know what they can ever be & becoming stable/rich someday is just an unachievable dream for them. This is what makes a person feel like they aren’t good enough. That’s where all desires start limiting one after another. And you never desire to buy a subway/train ticket to your next street in your city, you can do that anytime you want. You desire to travel/fly to Disneyland or a nice beach vacation out of your country and you start saving for that. Relationships are like that DESIRE, you invest little after little time to get something bigger one day. All sums up to; No matter it’s relationship or any other goals of your life; DESIRE BIG, HAVE EXPECTATIONS ONLY FROM YOURSELF, INVEST YOUR ENERGY WITH TIME, REMAIN OPTIMISTIC ABOUT THE OUTCOME & STAY AWAY FROM THE CHEAP IF YOU EVER WANT EXPERIENCE EXPENSIVE.
People really get confused when they see these two words together “POWER COUPLE”.
It simply means, you see TRUTH, TRUST & CONFIDENCE in your partner’s eyes. Each time you are face to face, you scream at your partner without opening mouth “You are going nowhere this lifetime. Your address is my arms. I own you.” There is no longer a day where communication will struggle. There is no chance for misunderstandings. Each words spoken are TRUTH or a PROMISE. That’s when you are sure about your forever next.
While typing this I can add one thing; I don’t know where i stand in terms of a romantic relationship or LOVE kinda bullshit. I was/am never ready to enter a relationship. Did that mistake just once, failed. Not ready to allow anyone close without a huge time tested solid foundation.
Now I assure, I see TRUTH in someone. Request is; please never lose it. My heart is healed & I am back on track towards usual flamboyance. Thanks for succesfully keeping my both heads active. Yes, I am trying to make you weak. And shhhhhhhhh, I know how to make twins.😂😘
Anyone who tries to woo me with those cheesy/cheeky texts, remember I LOVE cheesecakes way more than you can ever LOVE me. Another non-negotiable requirement; “Last slice of that pepperoni pizza will always be mine.”
There are people who think someone will approach for a relationship & life will be all rose pink after that. We are living in the world where one swipe left/right, you meet someone. And next day that person is gone to someone else or better.
My philosophy is; I am building myself. I get along with strong headed or loyal heart people. The one who wants me will get me & not stop fighting till mission accomplished. Life is like 80% work & 20% rest bullshit. That’s how I roll. A romantic relationship is not the goal of anyone’s life. You don’t need LOVE to spoon or fuck. It depends on your morals how you entertain people. Build a TRUE amazing self before asking a stable secure relationship.
I am definitely romantic. My kinda romance is more about two return tickets to any nearby destination, a nice service apartment, handcuffs, lubes, cheesecakes, melted chocolate & whipped cream. Opening car doors, bending knees & flowers are too much 80s. I am happy to be me.