The biggest hurdle on your way to happiness is self-loathing. Self-loathing is very similar to insecurity. And if you experience it, know that you’re not alone. Almost everyone experiences some form of self-hate at one time or another. It’s the feeling you are not enough, unworthy or undeserving of the good things in life, like love and happiness. The truth is that, everyone deserves love and happiness. But we’re often taught the opposite. It may arise from a history of abuse, cultural or social messages or being excluded.
Bad relationships, failures and many other different experiences can lead you to believe that, there is something inherently wrong with you. Well, there isn’t and self-loathing will only bring you down even if you’ve made decisions that you’re not proud of. You can learn from your mistakes, hating yourself over them will not do you any good. Let go of your self-loathing. It’s a barrier to your happiness. And you do deserve to be happy.
No matter what’s the equation of a relationship, LOVE always teaches us DEDICATION & SACRIFICE. If no, you are involved in some other bullshit.
Every kind of addiction causes some harm to our sanity. When you think about addiction, you might think of alcohol or drug addiction, but there are countless other forms of addiction you could be addicted to, work, sugar, video games, drama or even a toxic relationship. No matter what your compulsion is, it will always be a barrier to your happiness. Addiction creates an insatiable appetite, the void can never be full since your desire for the object of your affection is limitless. You’ll never feel that sweet satisfaction.
Addiction only leads to a cycle of relentless hunger and dissatisfaction. To make things worse while you’re stuck in this never ending sequence of discontent, your addictions saps the energy from all other areas of your life like hobbies, passions, relationships or self-care. Recovery is a long hard road. It may be one of the most challenging experiences of your life, but it can be also the most rewarding if you want to be happier. Think about dropping your addictions.
Two major discomforting traits of most people; EXCESSIVE PRIDE & INSECURITY. Let’s talk about both little bit. Purpose is to identify & get rid of these ASAP, i am talking this to both reader & writer.
Excessive pride. Pride isn’t necessarily a terrible thing. It can bring you confidence and self-assurance which are two great qualities that can help you lead a happy life. However pride can also cause destruction through overconfidence and resistance to learning. If your pride is extreme, it can ruin your personal and professional relationships. It’s not uncommon for people to let their pride prevent them from acknowledging their mistakes and to learn from them whether it’s a project at the office or an argument with a friend. It’s essential to keep your pride in check and get rid of any excess that is no longer serving you.
Insecurity. Insecurity has no benefits, it often arises from judgment or criticism of yourself and other people. It causes chronic unhappiness and becomes a burden on your life. As long as you are the most honest and authentic version of yourself, no one has the right to judge you for it and that goes for you too. There is nothing wrong with living your life the way you want to live. If self-doubt is something you picked up along the way and it’s something you can drop whenever you choose. Your friends and family love you for you. When you doubt their respect to faction or acceptance, you are doing a disservice not only to yourself but to your loved ones as well.
Business is a game of PRICES and Relationship is a game of VALUES. We always want something EXPENSIVE or someone VALUABLE.
(Stolen from one of my previous post)
My bestie bitch once said; “never ever believe that person who says I LOVE YOU & I AM SORRY at the same time”. She said it not because i was going through some kinda heartbreak, but because she thought “I WAS SPOILED WITH UNNECESSARY ATTENTION”. This post is dedicated to Demi.
All i want to share today is something about generic relationship traits. I always push this idea about leading a “TRUTHFUL LIFE”. Loyal, Legal, Good, True, Beautiful, Gentle, Elegant, Law-abiding, Modest; not many people find these words cool enough. This is a world where people think “baby mama” sounds chic compared to a lawfully wedded wife. I am little old school in terms of visualising a togetherness. That’s the reason I just get bored of those who lie, cheat, hide shit or talk unnecessary trash. I see ton of young people waste their precious years of life stuck in their or other’s irrelevant nonsensical deceptive ways. Heartbreaks are not new, so are cheaters.
Build yourself to be a stable person before entering a relationship, then allow the strongest possible person in your eyes to accompany you. I am talking STRONG in terms of values, morals, mindset & YEAH MONEY TOO. We live in a world where everything has a cost associated to it, there is nothing wrong in being little materialistic. A relationship is not about settling down for someone. It must help you grow stronger physically, emotionally & financially as well. Let people take their sweet time to prove their worth. Exclusivity is earned. You are the most expensive person in your life. 😘ZK.
A relationship is never about a right or wrong person. We encounter both good and bad people in our life. But choices depend on our taste to pick & choose with whom we can vibe. Sometimes we even allow & entertain something/someone that never aligns with our values. All of these till we understand, it’s nothing but getting along with someone’s goodness & consistent approach. Actually consistent approach towards life in general.
Back to first line once again; it’s not about right or wrong, it’s all about whether someone is TRUTHFUL no matter being good or bad and whether that person is consistent!! A TRUTHFUL CONSISTENT person is a lifelong turn on.
When somebody asks me “Why aren’t you in a relationship?”. My IDGAF answer for random people is, because I never wanted one.
My answer for friends is little different: I have met/dated ton of beautiful girls in my past, but never found a beautiful person. I can’t deny every single girl i met were amazing for different reasons. And yes i am the one who is spoiled with unnecessary attention or it’s as easy as “I am the one who’s not worth it”. Not proud of my past equations, yet I am fine with both because I love my independent status. You can call it single.
Soon or sooner I wanna change it to something better. I never hide things.ZK😍 I love it when people are grounded by nature & every independent person has a story of hustle which starts beyond comfort zone. That’s it. A truthful consistent independent person who values her values & who understands value of MONEY because we live in a world which is driven by material growth, that’s all i can demand from my partner. First one is sorted, next one is still a disputed territory that i will answer some other day.
With time moving up we see young people showing less intrest in relationships, basically most of us suck at COMMITMENT. Nobody answers you why!! But you will definitely spot a bunch of those who will say; “They are the perfect oak but weather is not helping. Claiming to be perfect is nothing but stupid”.
Answer: Expectations & optimism, It depends on what you expect from yourself & how optimistic you are about it!! There are many who aren’t stable with life, I am not talking about that problem. It’s just that, people know what they can ever be & becoming stable/rich someday is just an unachievable dream for them. This is what makes a person feel like they aren’t good enough. That’s where all desires start limiting one after another. And you never desire to buy a subway/train ticket to your next street in your city, you can do that anytime you want. You desire to travel/fly to Disneyland or a nice beach vacation out of your country and you start saving for that. Relationships are like that DESIRE, you invest little after little time to get something bigger one day. All sums up to; No matter it’s relationship or any other goals of your life; DESIRE BIG, HAVE EXPECTATIONS ONLY FROM YOURSELF, INVEST YOUR ENERGY WITH TIME, REMAIN OPTIMISTIC ABOUT THE OUTCOME & STAY AWAY FROM THE CHEAP IF YOU EVER WANT EXPERIENCE EXPENSIVE.
LIARS lie everyone a different lie. LIARS look for pleas & discounts with everything they do. The only thing that’s consistent about a LIAR is their INCONSISTENCY. That’s why LIARS can’t love & even if they do, you can’t trust them. And I catch lies, I am arrogant about it & I don’t lie.
You don’t need a right person to be in a relationship. First you need to be the right person, who can be trusted while remaining TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT towards yourself.