In case you want to grow into a bigger better person, your past mustn’t dictate your present or future. Most believe “past is 100% indicative of future”. Everyone screws up sometimes and we’ve all been hurt in some way, be taken advantage of or have been accepted less than we deserve, but you shouldn’t regret any of it as every negative situation is a chance to learn something and they help us make better choices.
The next time you’ll learn who you can trust, what you want in a friendship or relationship or a business partnership, how to read people and to detect insecurity, you figure out who you are and how to be yourself and most importantly to appreciate the good things in your life over own flaws. Life is fun, let it be.
Certain things must be kept personal no matter how clumsy life gets, two such things which bug us the most are past resentments & fears and weaknesses.
Everyone has fears and weaknesses and sharing these things will not provide you comfort. People enjoy seeing other people’s weaknesses, so don’t feed them. You can study up on your fears and weaknesses or if that isn’t working, get some professional help.
Resentments about the past or constantly digging up the past, It’s not going to help. Those past experiences can easily affect today. Do not let these define the moment you are in. The best thing you can do is to express yourself in the moment. This way you can prevent past regrets and resentments. Forgive others in order to be peaceful, move on and let go.
One can’t be present if they are looking backwards, or for that matter forward. This is a tricky one to explain because it seems to imply that past and future don’t matter, somewhat seeming to contradict our vision for a better tomorrow. But that’s not really true. Let’s look at it like, as humans we often have the tendency to get caught up in thoughts about past achievements & failures. And sometimes, it’s living in our dreams of future that hinder us from seeing the potential of present. We tend to forget that present counts much more than the past or the future. Actually the steps that you take in the present are more important than the memories of the past & dreams of the future.
You need to deal with the past & the future while living in present. Take your sweet time and go back to the past once in a while to collect necessary lesson, then come back and live in your present without reliving those same low points of life. Use lessons from the past and also use dreams of a grand future to drive yourself to take the necessary steps that’s required right right now. We all might have dealt with bad memories and bad experiences in our past, that mustn’t stop us from seeing the light of a beautiful tomorrow. I always say this “TOMORROW IS ALWAYS AN UPGRADE OF TODAY”.
Everything that you do is somehow connected. The past, present & the future all are connected. Your past & present hold significant sway over your FUTURE. You should realise that “no one step” will suddenly shoot you into the future of your dreams. Every single step you have ever taken and the ones you take right now are equally important. Your future is actually culmination of your previous choices & steps. So all of them count.
Therefore, make an effort to take steps which are consistent with your destination. Only that way you can get there. That’s how you reach/fetch GOALS. (Not my words).
Doesn’t matter whether you broke up with someone or you are trying to woo someone, if you are sure about approaching LOVE “MAKE SURE YOUR SINGLEHOOD IS PROVEN FOR SOME MONTHS AT LEAST, PAST PEOPLE HOLD YOU BACK FROM A PROSPEROUS FUTURE“. A clean and fully healed heart makes things easier for both to move ahead together towards a successful tomorrow.
If you want to know about my past before approaching, I have answer for you.
I don’t have any sort of LOVE story to serve your query. There are bunch of not-so-meaningful encounters or sex stories you can say. Yes I was wowed & about to fall for someone, escaped that thing at the right time. It’s good when mask falls off, you are left with only TRUTH.
People fear talking about mistakes. I have done crimes. Whatever comes to my head/heart always reaches my mouth instantaneously. Not afraid or not running away from my past anymore. It took time to heal & find my true-self. In LOVE with the way I vibe.🤗