The biggest hurdle on your way to happiness is self-loathing. Self-loathing is very similar to insecurity. And if you experience it, know that you’re not alone. Almost everyone experiences some form of self-hate at one time or another. It’s the feeling you are not enough, unworthy or undeserving of the good things in life, like love and happiness. The truth is that, everyone deserves love and happiness. But we’re often taught the opposite. It may arise from a history of abuse, cultural or social messages or being excluded.
Bad relationships, failures and many other different experiences can lead you to believe that, there is something inherently wrong with you. Well, there isn’t and self-loathing will only bring you down even if you’ve made decisions that you’re not proud of. You can learn from your mistakes, hating yourself over them will not do you any good. Let go of your self-loathing. It’s a barrier to your happiness. And you do deserve to be happy.
People are always divided with opinions towards a happy life. Some believe MONEY is important & some believe LOVE is important. This fight between MONEY & LOVE is so peculiar that i laugh at it whenever this discussion pops up.
What nobody talks about is, both are a painstakingly time consuming slow process till you reach it’s epitome. Most people purposefully lie about both of these two. At the end, you get exactly what you invest. Even a small lie has it’s consequences, Karma keeps a count of it’s course. People fail in MONEY (material growth) or LOVE because of their impatient behaviour or inconsistency. Stay calm, quiet, upfront and focused while you are fetching something purposeful in life.
It’s impossible to have a belief that wouldn’t reflect in our actions. Truthfully our actions are surer proof what we really believe. In a life of meaningful impact is what you truly seek, then selflessness is a cardinal virtue you have to demonstrate continually. You should learn be accomodating, open & helpful to people even when you barely know them. When this becomes your life habit, it is proof that you have attained some form of growth, because truly matured people lead selfless lives – they are always ready to give & help the growth of others.
Expression of selflessness reveals our true intentions.
With time moving up we see young people showing less intrest in relationships, basically most of us suck at COMMITMENT. Nobody answers you why!! But you will definitely spot a bunch of those who will say; “They are the perfect oak but weather is not helping. Claiming to be perfect is nothing but stupid”.
Answer: Expectations & optimism, It depends on what you expect from yourself & how optimistic you are about it!! There are many who aren’t stable with life, I am not talking about that problem. It’s just that, people know what they can ever be & becoming stable/rich someday is just an unachievable dream for them. This is what makes a person feel like they aren’t good enough. That’s where all desires start limiting one after another. And you never desire to buy a subway/train ticket to your next street in your city, you can do that anytime you want. You desire to travel/fly to Disneyland or a nice beach vacation out of your country and you start saving for that. Relationships are like that DESIRE, you invest little after little time to get something bigger one day. All sums up to; No matter it’s relationship or any other goals of your life; DESIRE BIG, HAVE EXPECTATIONS ONLY FROM YOURSELF, INVEST YOUR ENERGY WITH TIME, REMAIN OPTIMISTIC ABOUT THE OUTCOME & STAY AWAY FROM THE CHEAP IF YOU EVER WANT EXPERIENCE EXPENSIVE.
In this blog I talk about Money time to time. And YES I talk about it a lot. But do you wanna know there is one thing that’s more important than money!!? It’s called RESPECT. Or you can name it reputation because we consider humans as a social creature. Money can buy you everything including happiness, only thing you can’t purchase is RESPECT. You have to remain genuine & law-abiding for a long long period of time to earn some RESPECT.
There is a reason HONESTY is sexy in my eyes. I adore TRUTHFUL people, they are always cherished in my book. And I don’t need to mention; adore means LOVE & RESPECT.
Two people want each other. True. Vibe. Grow. Stick together. A relationship must be as simple and easy as that. Just cut & exit when anything else beyond/below that comes to play, that’s nothing but pure mindfuckery.
I love being single because “I DON’T LIKE/WANT OBLIGATION”, the same reason I don’t like debt or mortgages. My approach to life remains the same no matter where I am dealing with whatsoever kinda situation. And YES, I do believe in a truthful togetherness.
Love those who love you. Your problems are yours & just yours. When you are feeling low, remember there are lot many people in this world who are in way worse situation compared to yours. Helping others is just another way to help yourself & feel fulfilled with life. And LOVE can’t hurt you so don’t mind exploring, those who hurt you aren’t your people. Few people will pretend to care, there are fake people with hidden agendas. Emotions are temporary & sometimes you just stop wanting such people. Being an adult is fun if you can enjoy life & have fun like kids.
Your life is in your control. Your destiny is in your control. Can’t say the same for your FATE.