How many times you thought “I am not good enough or I don’t have enough to be happy”? Actually these two are the most common lie we tell ourselves & we need to stop.
I’m not good enough. No matter how positive or confident you are, this thought has undoubtedly crossed your mind at one point or another. This thought can invade any aspect of your life and it can lead you to believe that, you’re not good enough physically mentally or emotionally breaking down your self-worth. Believing that you’re not good enough or smart enough to do something often makes you not even want to try, because you don’t see the point in the inevitable failure. It will stop you from putting in the effort needed to reach your goals.
I don’t have enough yet to be happy. Every situation has a silver lining or a lesson that can be learned from it. Know some people are too busy worrying about the problem to ever see it. Being upset over something you don’t have or didn’t get, it’s only a waste of time and stops you from seeing what you do have. The happiest people aren’t necessarily the extremely fortunate of rich ones. It’s those who see the positivity and potential in what they already have and make the most of every opportunity that comes their way.
(This video of Donald Dump got nothing to do with the post above. Just wanted to share a tiny video of the most miserable human being on this planet who breathes lies.)
What we don’t discuss about LIES? Some people lie to manipulate but few might be lying in an entirely different way. Lies of omission could be keeping you up at night. Maybe you’re unhappy with your relationship or your career. You could be lying to yourself or others, lying others that you’re satisfied when you aren’t. Are you hiding in the closet preventing others from knowing your true identity or maybe you told an outright lie and you’ve been carrying it with you for a long time!?! Whatever Secrets you’re protecting you can let the lie go by telling a trusted friend. Once you share the truth, the falsity fades away. Even when you believe that lying is the best or most moral decision, it can still take a toll on your conscience. You can move on from the regrets in a truce that are holding you back. Let go of the lies and live your life with honesty for happier existence.
Now if you saw this video, i would love to see every liar/cheater in this exact same position as this woman. Correction, there should be a database of cheaters so that people with healthy happy mindset can be aware whom to date & whom to wham bam thank you mam!! Not a single cheater understands these bold italic lines; “You are bound to sink if you put two legs in two boats. Just break up if you aren’t happy with someone. Be blunt & say it. Take a 3-6 month break to get rid of memories from previous relationship. That will help both to get rid of those up & down toxic cycles. Then start your next chapter from a clean slate”. When you lie about your income tax, property, anything illegal or criminal act, there is a law everywhere to deal with it. The fun part, there is no such things to deal with cheaters in a relationship. If you ever lie or cheat your partner, never expect a forgiveness. That’s just cheap & the only nature of CHEAP is; it gets cheaper with time. I can say the same for every inconsistent person. Learn to follow a consistent truthful life for your own happiness, that’s attractive & sassy af. Hope i was able to make little sense in my post.
Lying may be more common than you think. One study found that 40% of adults lie at least once in a day, usually in small ways. And even though some people lie more or less than others, a lie is a lie. So how do you navigate a world full of liars when you value honesty and integrity. Here are two major traits of genuinely honest people so you can decide whether you or someone in your life is truly a honest person:
1. They have a calm yet strong speaking voice. One of the easiest telltale signs of lying is an aggressive voice when you catch someone in a lie, they’ll often raise their voice in defense as a way to establish power. Honest people rarely become defensive when they’re asked questions, even if those questions seem accusatory in nature. When an honest person replies, their tone of voice is calm and consistent since there is no possible way they’ll be found out. They have nothing to worry about. There is no reason to lie or make up a story. There’s nothing to hide.
2. Honest people come across as rude sometimes. They are less concerned with catering to your feelings. They would rather tell you a truth that hurts then let you believe a lie that makes you feel good about yourself. They aren’t afraid to tell the truth, even if it means they’ll come across as rude or harsh. Because of this fact you might think an honest person is mean sometimes. If you’re not ready for the raw unadulterated truth, then don’t ask an honest person. They’re Not going to sugarcoat a situation or pretend that everything is OK. When it isn’t OK, they’ll present the facts and give their personal opinions even if it’s not what you want to hear. If you’ve ever received tough information from an honest person know that their intent is not malice, It’s HONESTY.
There are liars, cheaters, thieves, criminals, Donald Trump & all sort of other deceptive people, all have one thing in common is their “LIE”. Basically all are different degree of LIARS. On the other hand there is also another set of equally lackluster group of folks known as “INCONSISTENT PEOPLE”. And i swear they are even more worse compared to LIARS. Liars are a turn off, but it takes a little time to catch their lies. But inconsistent people are way more prominent in their part of nonsense, you can catch their INCONSISTENCY very next moment. Another funny part, most LIARS are INCONSISTENT by nature.
My post was to make everyone aware of any INCONSISTENT person around. You don’t need to confront them, just get rid of them. Right people vibe & match your energy, then stick for a long run no matter what’s your taste or status!! Liars will never connect to this school of thought. Truth is trust. Be blunt to block any inconsistent person from life, that’s the best gift you can give yourself before 2020 is over. Still another month away, let’s end it on a good note.
(This paragraph has nothing to do with the post above. We are slowly but surely recovering from this pandemic. I wish/hope everyone is taking care of own health and happiness. Today i am not around family or my same set of friends that i have spent previous few amazing years, i am talking about geographical distance here. This is the time we used to share some warmth, have some nice sugery/greasy yummy food & create few good memories meanwhile. I didn’t host any kinda party this year because of COVID-19, that money was meant to be spent for my people. So many things didn’t go as planned. What breaks my heart is those people whose lives & livelihood got effected. Went to a nearby homeless shelter today asking whether i can donate some sweatshirts/jackets/blankets because it’s almost winter. They replied, there is enough winter clothes available except some winter woolen socks because they always run short. I bought socks for everyone in that homeless shelter & i wasn’t even able to spend the whole thanksgiving dinner money. Only message i wanted to share here; YES we all are going through a tough time. Do your tiny bit towards the needy even if you want to flex/share it in your instagram or YouTube. There is nothing wrong is spreading the right. HAPPY THANKSGIVING.)
We humans pack tons of flaws in us & we always try to hide it. Let’s be true, we all have done this. We share only that much information which will make other side feel better about us. My problem here is, “What’s the point of trying that if you are not YOU!!”. That’s not the right way to fit in to someone’s life or some group/ideology. It’s exactly opposite, you are entering somebody’s book of misunderstanding.
That’s the reason every grifter thinks she/he is RIGHT by sharing half information about his half TRUTH. When you try to hide something no matter how small it is, you act like you are hiding something. People who care about you will notice it. And there are high chances few are losing their mojo because of that behaviour. LEARN TO BE YOURSELF. FLAWS ARE BEAUTIFUL IN CASE YOU CAN OWN THEM TRUTHFULLY.
LIARS have to sell them short. Not because they want to, but because they have to. There is no other way out.
Wanna know why: A liar lies to every single person a different lie a different way, it’s like building a strong wall around yourself after locking yourself inside a prison. No escape instead of living your lies.