After you know WHO DO YOU LOVE, then make sure to find out WHY DO YOU LOVE as well. It’s needed for a long-term. You need a reason to be with someone. There is something you liked unique in your partner, or else why are you with him/her!!
Being in love with a bed-bug is hard no-matter how good is that money/boots/smile or sex. If a person isn’t driven, you can’t be with them on the longer run. A person without a goal is indecisive and they will only bring instability to your life.
Doesn’t matter which side you are in, try to be a better you with a motive. Motive/goal can be anything, being a better student/employee/business person whatever it is. First find your reason to strive/live, other side will celebrate you in LOVE.