Love means, we constantly improve communication & consistency, practice patience. It also means just leave when things aren’t equal anymore.
6 signs you aren’t in LOVE:
1. You moved things fast with your partner.
Infatuations thrive on speed, while LOVE takes time to develop. Infatuations live in illusion. Love can survive reality. When you quickly jump into a relationship with someone, you base it off your dreams more than whose really in front of you. Common examples are; thinking about a future with them, lusting after some legit emotions or obsessing about them for anything in your head. All of these are done after months and years of knowing them, that you just slipped/skipped.
2. You expect them to be flawless.
And you get angry or upset over them when you see their true colours. Do you believe in soulmates or fate? It sounds good in theory. But we all know infatuations also need perfection to survive. We need our partners to be consistently well dressed, good with their words or impressive with their accomplishments, meantime you are not giving them space to be honest. Love on the other hand is grounded. When you love someone, you accept their imperfections, you work through the bad and enjoy the good together.
3. You are not comfortable enough around them. Who hasn’t felt self-conscious about saying the wrong thing or making bad decisions/impressions? But when you truly fall in love with someone, that’s when you can let loose and stop caring so much. Those who have a strong sense of love and belonging are more open to vulnerability. Whereas those who feel disconnected with their partners consistently build their walls up. When you don’t share your emotions and struggles nor secrets with someone, you haven’t fully loved.
4. You become more distant.
It’s normal for passion to intensify initially only to taper off, which isn’t gonna help you into a steady relationship. But two people in love will still want to be around each other frequently. That’s another reason people in love plan a life together equally over indulging in rest activities. If you find yourself wanting to get away from your partner more and more these days, often because you’d rather go hang out with your friends or family or cat/dog, then something’s up.
5. Your mind is elsewhere.
With mind soon your heart also follows the same route. Partners who are in love tend to maintain a focus on their counterparts. When you notice the little things about them or express concerns when the two of you run into conflict, it shows you care for them. If you avoid those tough conversations or slip away from arguments, you also stop emphasizing their importance in your life.
6. You developed anxiety.
Have you been experiencing digestive problems or have trouble sleeping/over sleeping? Anxiety can show in this bodily disfunction. You might have something you need to get off your chest and dread how to break the news off to your partner. Remember you can only run away from the truth for so long before it catches upto you.
Forcing LOVE when it’s absent will only hurt the two of you. Both of you deserve to find love elsewhere if it can’t be found in your relationship.
Where do you think you stand on your feelings? Dig deeper, learn yourself with little Truth and self evaluation.