I never understood religion, i never will. It’s not about Hindu, Muslim or Christianity, it’s about forcing that belief/idea of “MY GOD IS SUPERIOR OR ALIVE”. There was a time all gods were living on this planet, so is dinosaurs. Now God is gone, it’s on us humans to fight & get radical or move ahead with little gratitude & humanity. I respect your faith. I rest my case.
How many times you thought “I am not good enough or I don’t have enough to be happy”? Actually these two are the most common lie we tell ourselves & we need to stop.
I’m not good enough. No matter how positive or confident you are, this thought has undoubtedly crossed your mind at one point or another. This thought can invade any aspect of your life and it can lead you to believe that, you’re not good enough physically mentally or emotionally breaking down your self-worth. Believing that you’re not good enough or smart enough to do something often makes you not even want to try, because you don’t see the point in the inevitable failure. It will stop you from putting in the effort needed to reach your goals.
I don’t have enough yet to be happy. Every situation has a silver lining or a lesson that can be learned from it. Know some people are too busy worrying about the problem to ever see it. Being upset over something you don’t have or didn’t get, it’s only a waste of time and stops you from seeing what you do have. The happiest people aren’t necessarily the extremely fortunate of rich ones. It’s those who see the positivity and potential in what they already have and make the most of every opportunity that comes their way.
(This video of Donald Dump got nothing to do with the post above. Just wanted to share a tiny video of the most miserable human being on this planet who breathes lies.)
Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.
– Mahatma Gandhi.
Grandpa once said “If you are confident about your views or values, never expect others to certify it”. I was still in my teen days when he said it. He died at the age of 97 before 3 years. I am somehow understanding his words how & why. I talk a lot about building confidence to develop a stronger self-esteem, which can later help in growing self-respect further. Let me explain all in few words;
1- Confident people don’t force their views on others. They don’t force their beliefs on anyone else whether those beliefs are political or religious. They have a clear understanding that these beliefs in choices are personal for everyone. They may stand up for themselves when others oppose, but will never challenge what other people think nor feel the need to tell them that they are wrong.
2- Never compromise your values. Having defined core values is foundational principles to any pursuit in life. Confident people live in alignment with their values and will never compromise themselves what they hold dear. They use these values as they make decisions in both life and work. Even if it means giving up something desirable in the short term. When it comes to confidence one thing is certain, truly confident people always have the upper hand over the doubtful and the skittish. Because they inspire others and they make things happen. Embracing the behaviors of confident people is a great way to increase your odds for success which in turn will lead to more confidence. (Not my words)
Never beg/trust/depend on anyone. People come to take things away from you. Givers suffer the most.
In this world filled with liars, cheaters & deceptive people, we all encounter trust issues. One easy noticable trait of every untrustworthy person is; they struggle to empathize people. Those who lack empathy are much better at being able to deceive or hurt someone and the ability to empathize with others is something most untrustworthy people lack. An empathetic person would be hesitant to hurt someone else since they can imagine the pain their actions could cause. It acts as a barrier to hurtful behavior. If someone is capable or even comfortable with backstabbing or betraying others, they usually lack empathy. They likely won’t take responsibility for their damaging actions and don’t even know that they lack the ability to empathize.
Untrustworthy people are self-serving, they care only for themselves and can’t see past their own perspectives. Some people are even able to use empathy selectively and only when they stand to gain from it, which can make this trait even harder to spot observing how someone acts toward others, especially those they can’t benefit from will reveal their true nature. A lack of empathy is a red flag when it comes to gauging someone’s trustworthiness.
Being defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent.
– Marilyn Vos Savant.
Friends usually ask me “How you manage to stay motivated whole day!?” Never changed my answer & i never will. My answer is; MY PEOPLE & MONEY. I am a strong believer in material growth, MONEY is always a priority. Now that i have mentioned this word “PRIORITY”; the earlier you will understand your priorities, the quicker your path to happiness will start opening in a big way.
Make a goal which can keep you awake with a smile, which can make you the best worker for yourself, at the end it must make you enough tired so that you can get a cozy happy sleep like a baby. No need of motivation from someone else. In my case, i am just excited towards everything new, i read a lot, i learn a lot, i read ton of news and articles on finance or tech, most of the time i keep on learning something from skillshare. They all help me remain positive to see “WHAT’S NEXT!!”. The day you will figure out your way towards priorities & desires, that’s it. At the end i must mention; “MOTIVATION IS AN EXAGGERATED WORD. I AM JUST AN EXCITED PERSON. I WANNA SEE WHAT TOMORROW IS PLANNING TO OFFER ME. THAT EXCITED ME ALWAYS REPRESENTS AN EXCITING PERSON IN ME TO THE WORLD”.
PERFECTION IS NOT ATTAINABLE. But if we chase PERFECTION, we can catch EXCELLENCE.
– Vince Lombardi.
Toxic people are not new to life. World is filled with narcissists & liars that we can’t sideline. But that situation becomes often if you don’t set limits & establish boundaries. I would rather say, you must do both for every equation in your life. Let me explain why/how;
Set limits: Complainers and negative people are bad news. They wallow in their problems and they want others to join in so that they can feel better about themselves. People often feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don’t want to be seen as insensitive or rude, but there’s a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their negative emotional spiral. You can avoid this by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary. Just think of it this way; if the complainer were smoking, would you sit there all day inhaling the second-hand smoke? Probably not, you will distance yourself and you should do the same with every person who’s toxic.
Establish boundaries: This is the area where most people tend to sell themselves short, they feel that because they work or live with someone they have no way to control the chaos. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Once you’ve found your way to rise above a person, you’ll begin to find their behavior more predictable and easier to understand. This will equip you to think rationally about when and where you have to put up with them and when you don’t. If you let things happen naturally, you are bound to find yourself constantly broiled in difficult conversations. But if you set boundaries and decide when and where you’ll engage a person, you can control much of the chaos.